Category Archives: earning

Invitation Versus Demand


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Question mark (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I base my writing of The Jungle Pack Workbook (counseling), on the results witnessed from using finish-the-statement prompts.  I find that a lot of the question-asking comes across as trying to trick the client, to give up the gold (hidden personal information).  Also, I recognize the minimal education for growing kids and full-grown adults, in the context of how to build personal awareness.

Most people have a hard time with understanding their personal strengths and what triggers emotions in both themselves and others.  The prompts mentioned earlier, were designed to take the focus off of the person’s struggle to meet expectations of a counselor’s question.  One of the main elements I do my best to drop is any sense of testing.  Most people have experienced enough school-type testing to have a “right or wrong answer” state of expectations to deal with when posed a question.  When asked about information the child or adult is defending, the inquiry is thought of as a demand.  Obviously this did not work the first few hundred times in school, at work or in the home.

If a person is coming to me for counseling at any age, he or she has already met many reasons to defy trust in others.  Along with this, is a reoccurring propensity to feel angered with people.  The world already looks scary at this point.  Otherwise, the promise of confidentiality wouldn’t be considered so appealing.  But even in the counseling session, trust must be earned by the therapist.  And we find many times, this is no easy task in regards to the information which keeps a person stuck.

 

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Carrying Those Obselete Tools


My questions to those who say “Slow down Man!  You’re making the rest of us look lazy!”

What does this have to do with my personal goals?

Where does this statement qualify in making any difference to my duty to the nuclear family at home?

What does your self-preservation have to do with my vision for a better life?

How does your refusal to cooperate or support my efforts fit into my desire to sign my work with excellence?

 

The Jungle Pack addresses our “I want to’s.”


I am willing to have someone tell me that it is wrong to assume we all have times when the silent statement “I want to..” is pushed away, like it doesn’t matter.  Before there are any steps taken, we as people spend a lot of time saying “It’s just not possible.”

The Jungle Pack: Workbook-Therapy Journal has a way people to document those thoughts, so there can be the opportunity to further explore what is standing in the way of doing what is really wanted.  This of course applies to productive social or earning behaviors, but do a lot of us even know what those are?

I want to plant a seed.  When the thought statement “It’s just impossible” comes up, try to deny the fact that Orville and Wilber Wright were told out loud many times, that man could not fly.