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Size Matters

Oftentimes, we try to pass through small windows of opportunity with old beliefs that don’t fit.  It’s like forcing a huge square peg through a small round hole.  We bang, push, cry, yell and say “This is so unfair!”

We expect to make friends with people who want to be treated differently than our old pals; the ones who are used to our usual behavior.  Yes, some people will stick around and take the same old crap.  It’s called low self-esteem.  But to have new and maybe even better opportunities with different people, the same old crap won’t work.  The size of our baggage blocks our ability to see this.

Maybe our old beliefs have worked in the past.  We put value on how many times the loyal friends and family members kept coming back, no matter how insidious we acted at times or maybe even all the time.  We tend to look at this as being worth more than the potential for new experiences that foster real growth.

Remember that thing called “inflation”?  How many times have we refused to drop a useless pattern of thinking or an outdated belief, because of how it serves us in the name of comfort?  It’s like refusing a job that can possibly reap ten times more money, but the level of initial discomfort keeps us in a job that only earns a meager salary.

You’re HOT!: Steps 1, 2 & 3

The Runner.

1. Taking care of yourself– No matter how you actually look, if you’re in the process of working on the goal of better health, then YOU ARE HOT.  Any form of self-care is HOT.  You’re on the move, presenting to the world a courageous act of saying “I matter!  No matter what’s going on nor how I’m feeling, I’m shining my shoes and building muscle!”  People on the move are HOT.

2. You Love people in spite of the behavior– When you are paying more attention to people’s strengths and potential, you’re HOT.  It has to do with being smart.  The great things about people are many times more abundant, than the few behaviors which offend us.  Investing in what you love makes for more feelings of love.  When you practice LOVE, you emanate warmth.  When you emanate warmth, you’re HOT.

3. Doing your thing- You’re the one who spends time honing the craft or working on a project.  And chances are, it sets you apart from the others at least for the time being.  This makes for automatic HOTNESS because the activity draws questions.  You are automatically HOT when people are asking questions.  You are on the move.  Even criticism about what you do is HOT, because the other person is spending his/ her time and energy on you!